Peculiar

Yesterday a new subscriber viewed this post that I wrote in 2012, thirteen years ago. Rereading the memory of my Aunt Carol made me smile and I thought you might smile too. Please let me know.

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My aunt died recently at the age of ninety-two. Peculiar was how my mother described her sister. It was a kind word choice considering, and gave my aunt personality and style, rather than label her strange.

Born on January 13, 1920, her dad, Charles Achilles DeSalvo, named her Marie Antoinette while his wife was sedated.  She was called Carol and legally changed her name once she was twenty-one.

As a twelve-year-old, I watched her layout under garments (padded bras, garter belts and silk panties) on the bed, to wear after a bath and thought she was a princess.

She wore high heel, open toe, sling back shoes lined with Kleenex tissues, as slippers; bathed with Palmolive soap, used a pumice stone to ward off foot callous, brushed her teeth with tooth powder and applied makeup sitting at a dressing table in a house coat. The final step once I zippered her newest dress was to take out the Bobbie-pins and comb through her hair. She did not dilly-dally but was fashionably late for cocktails.

Aunt Carol was frozen in time. Nothing changed for her since 1958 when she owned a green Buick. She had a Nancy Regan style, but never went to Washington.

Her hair-do the day she died was the same as the day my parents married. She never had children and did not marry until sixty. She did not wear slacks, low shoes, socks, or sneakers. Every dress she owned was individually surrounded with plastic and stored in a closet. I still can hear her response to the mention of denim, “Only cowboys wear denim,”  she said with a sharp rise in her voice, clutching a tissue.

Aunt Carol loved to shop and demonstrated peculiar behavior at the checkout.  She watched carefully every item rung up as though it was her first trip to Disney then waited for the cashier to ask, “Will that be cash or charge?”

Aunt Carol eventually said “Credit Card,” with a look of disdain, then opened the metal clasp on her black leather purse, and removed a zip lock bag.  A wallet wrapped in Kleenex tissue secured by a blue rubber band was inside the plastic. Unwrapping, the wallet was a slow process that suspended time for everyone around her. Eventually she removed a credit card and paid.

I wonder what her life would have been as Marie Antoinette DeSalvo.

                                                                                  …just saying

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Cruising

I’m back from a cruise. I went with a group better known as Girls Night Out, or GNO. My mind struggles to state acronyms correctly, and this is no exception, so I tell people I’m going on a cruise and men aren’t invited.

 It doesn’t matter where we’re going. All I need to know is the date and boarding time. . .  so I don’t have to shop for food, cook and clean for seven days, all in a row.

We left from Port Canaveral, which is within driving distance if you live in Florida. The ports were Norwegian’s or NCL’s private island, Great Stirrup Cay in the Bahamas, Falmouth/ Jamaica, Georgetown/ Cayman Islands and Cozumel/Mexico.

The ship docked in Falmouth port rather than tender, and shopping and restaurants were a few steps away. But walk a little further and you’ll see how most locals live. Signs pave the way into the town center and tell the real story of Britain’s attempts to enslave Jamaicans while passing their efforts as freeing them from poverty.

 In Georgetown almost everything was beautiful and we went to the Cayman Turtle Center.

Green turtles are very large, friendly and native to the island. For a time they were endangered and consequently, now protected by law. I did buy something to remind myself they will swim to you and like to be stroked on their head. It’s a  new grocery bag to replace my 15 year old one. The photo is the two bags side by side. I planned to discard the old bag but if still has life in it and can’t.

In Cozumel we took a trolley city tour and I bought 12 ounces of Mexican chocolate for $30. I’ll let you know if it taste different from other chocolates. The chocolate factory located on the island employs many people.   We do no cooking or cleaning. We mostly. . . just laughed.

. . . just saying

Do You Wear An Apron?

Happy Thanksgiving to Family, Friends and Readers

When I put on an apron to start cooking today, memories of my grandmother’s flowered aprons came to mind, and the loud unruly Thanksgiving dinners of the past. At least twenty people were crammed around a dinning room table in her one bedroom apartment. Today there will be three of us, but. . . it is still Thanksgiving, a day of gratitude.

I didn’t cook turkey. It is too much work. I cook Lemon Chicken from the Sopranos Family Cookbook, stuffing and green beans. It was delicious and we didn’t miss the turkey.

I made an apple tart, thinking of my grandmother’s pies; apple, pumpkin, and mincemeat.They rested on an ironing board in her kitchen.

After dessert, the girls chose an apron to wear while cleaning the kitchen. Grandma visited with the other relatives until the dancing started; which was followed my turkey sandwiches, made of white bread, cranberries, and mayo.

Do you still wear an apron? I do.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.

The Alphabet Series-O is for Ordinary

Aging & Attitude

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New Thoughts on Words

“Honey, I’m home,” yells Mr. Wonderful,* as he parades himself through the front door carrying a boxed Hamilton Beach toaster oven I requested he buy. I meet him in the kitchen as he continues saying, “You’re gonna love it,” his chest buffed out, ready to strut his feathers like he is a peacock.

“Great,” I respond as excited as he is, “Was it still on sale?”

“Yes, $37.99.” He answers and reaches for a sharp knife to cut through the cellophane tape.

“Wait!” I demand. “Don’t open it! You didn’t get the red one. It says black, see.”

I point to the bold lettering on the box.

Hamilton Beach Toaster Oven

Black

“What’s the difference? They didn’t have a red one. Black, red, it makes toast, heats rolls, melts cheese.”

“Black is ordinary, dull, predictable. Black lacks distinction. Red adds, pizzazz, makes a statement.”

He says, “Who needs a statement? I want toast in the morning, ordinary, plain toast. I add cherry jelly if I need pizzazz. Dull and ordinary is just fine by me.”

“Fine? As in average, common and mundane. I want better than fine. Red adds color, interest against the black granite. I’ll take it back, where’s the receipt?”

“What difference does it make, nobody sees it. It’s a toaster.”

“I see it. Now I’m a nobody?”

“Claudia, that’s not what I meant, you’re being ridiculous, why can’t you ever be happy?”

“So I’m a ridiculous unhappy nobody.”

“I didn’t say that. Don’t put words in my mouth.”

“It doesn’t matter what you said, what you meant was, STOP being a pain in MY butt and settle for ordinary.”

“Geezzzzzzzzzz, What if it only came in black, you’d have to be happy with black.”

“Now I should fake it, pretend I like humdrum black. Did you look for chrome? Chrome, at least chrome would be different.

“You’re right. I’ll take it back. Why be ordinary? God forbid we’re ordinary. Whatever you want. If a red toaster oven makes you happy, I’m happy too. Yada, yada, yada”

*Mr. Wonderful is my husband of forty-two years. This was posted in 2013. He returned the black toaster oven and we still have the red one.
The picture on the left was taken this morning. Still looking good he prefers to be called, Bobbie C. And yes we are still married. . .fifty-two years.

….just saying

Inconvenient Weather

In Florida, weathermen or weather-people, to be politically correct; now refer to weather as inconvenient.

Well. . .your feet might get wet, your hair blown, and you’ll have to follow a car’s tail-lights to get home. But, you’ll be safe, in a down pour.

It is inconvenient; but catchy and cute. Isn’t it?

The expression hasn’t caught on in the north. Weather people announce the above freezing temperatures void of express, with little regard for the lack of sunshine.

Inconvenient weather is normal, and expected.

I don’t know what’s happening in other parts of the country.

So, on a normal fall day in the north, we drove to Indian Ladder Farms to buy apples. The variety of apples is outstanding and their sugar apple donuts memorable.

As we were leaving, I saw a restored Jaguar, and asked the owner if I could take a picture. He offered to take a picture of me in the vehicle.

We got to chatting. He and his wife are Florida Snow Birds and owners of a window washing service, Mark Washing Windows. They have a place in Port Orange, twenty-five miles from me.

They don’t think Florida’s weather is inconvenient and will be heading south after the holidays.

Is your weather inconvenient?

That’s Not Me

We’re visiting family in Delmar, N.Y., and the leaves are falling fast.

We arrived Wednesday to a chilly temperature of 35 degrees. I enjoy the crisp air and sleeping under a ton of blankets, so the adjustment from Florida is welcome. There is only a smidge of color, and most of the leaves have fallen. The leaves are blown into the street, not raked, and not bagged. The town routinely vacuums them, following a schedule similar to their garbage pick-up.

You can view my story, Wheels of Circumstance at Miriam Drioi’s That’s Not Me. I’m a contributing writer to her blog series.

The story originated when I met Vera in college in 1966. She and her mother had to run into the woods to flee the Russians and escape to Austria on November 4th, 1956

I’d love you to share this story, with family and friends, if you’re comfortable .

A Great Idea

Make a Photo-Book

Here’s a great idea Choose favorite pictures, saved on your phone over the past year, and make a photo-book. There are many companies, some more popular than others, but the one I used can upload them to your phone. I can’t tell you how because my granddaughter-in-law made the magic happen.

I have to confess it took me hours and hours to do the rest, and than hours to use the sale voucher I purchased, but it was worth it.

I received the book today.

I don’t take many pictures, so I had to beg, borrow, and steal from other places. But, next year I’ll think about making a book as I take pictures throughout 2024.

It’s hard to believe there are only 65 days left in the year.

The Alphabet Series The Letter N

Photo by Ichad Windhiagiri

The New Normal

Who knew this would be the new normal

Toes that no longer wiggle, giggle or dance, they sleep

Then suddenly cry, “Sudden leg syndrome is attacking my feet.”

Hands that can’t twist open a door

Or flip pages any more

Kitchen tops decorated with items I don’t want not forget

A part of my brain

Ridge in thought

Like stiff knees reluctant to bend

Grey cells will not receive or send

Exhausted and depleted

Comfort myself with food Mama cooked best

Meatloaf and mash-potatoes

Gives my cerebellum a rest

So, what if I forget to lock a door, a date, a score. . . and more

I’m old, invisible, and small

Don’t fret_____ explore!

Close your eyes, remember your youth and come with me

Imagine places we have never been before

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